Sexual
Assault as defined by Wikipedia: Sexual assault is any type
of sexual contact or
behavior that occurs without the explicit consent of the recipient. Falling
under the definition of sexual assault are sexual activities
as forced sexual intercourse,
forcible sodomy, child molestation, incest, fondling, and attempted rape.
We’ve seen movies about sexual assault. The girl (or boy) gets
assaulted, he/she is beaten, bruised and bloody and left to die. We don’t see the
movies where the girl/boy is lying in bed, sleeping next to a person they know
and trust that takes advantage of their small frame and inability to push them
off. We don’t see movies where it’s quiet and the girl says “no” over and over again.
There’s no beating of any kind, no visible bruises or blood. Just a person
left, laying there, left broken, confused and worthless. A person that will have
nightmares almost every night afterwards and assumes that any man/woman that
comes near them will do the same thing.
2 years ago, I was raped. And for the first time since it happened, I’m
strong enough to say it out loud.
It took me 2 years to acknowledge that what happened was wrong and that
I didn’t do anything to provoke it. I wasn’t wearing a short skirt, I wasn’t “asking
for it” and I hadn’t been drinking. I was a girl, fully clothed, laying in a
bed, just trying to sleep when a man twice my size used his weight to hold me
down and force himself on me after I repeatedly said “no” and “please stop”.
For 2 years it has controlled my life, it has controlled my ability to eat
normally, have normal relationships and for that I am angry. I have been angry
since the night my innocence was taken away.
I write this in hopes that it will help even just one person. Not for
sympathy, not for attention, but because I don’t want any other girl or boy to
feel like they don’t have a voice. I stayed silent for too long and because of
it, my health deteriorated, my feeling of self-worth diminished and my ability
to let people into my bubble became impossible.
Please tell someone, a doctor, a therapist, if you don’t feel
comfortable telling your family (like me), tell your best friend, someone you trust.
I’ve been in therapy for a little while now and the night I told my therapist
what happened, I felt an immense weight come off my shoulders. I’m no longer
hiding behind a smile, I don’t get as tense when someone touches me in the
grocery store or a man looks at me for what I think is too long when I’m in a
public setting.
Below is a list of services and hotlines for you or for anyone you know
that needs help, the first step to getting better is admitting that it
happened. Saying it out loud.
National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1-800-656-4673 (24 hours a day)
National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-787-3224
Victim Connect: 1-855-484-2846
"In life, you realize there is a role for everyone you meet. Some will test you, some will use you, some will love you, and some will love you and some will teach you. But the ones who are truly important are the ones who out the best in you. They are rare and amazing people who remind you why it's worth it." -Unknown
